I am excited to share this read and I am in the process of listening to it. Jesus has whispered to me the process of fully letting go in my life- of my past. He has also whispered to me to make sure I am never an emotional abuser myself, through the words I speak. We all have had people in our lives or ourselves have fallen into this trap of sin from time to time. Learning to react to hurt, deep betrayal, or loss. Learning that someone is not to be trusted at all, when formerly they were given too much in our lives. --- Also, this is free on Audible.
We all have had to repent ourselves with how we have treated others and have had to figure out how to carry on with so much past negative influence in our lives; while forgiving and healing- being Jesus no matter the cost. Forgiveness actually frees yourself. Its a beautiful thing.
I love this read because it nails the obvious. Bettering yourself will never change any abuser. Bettering yourself will never change someone who has secretly under the table, wanted you to fall, fail, or who has carried out subtle influences to harm. (Usually without anyone knowing or understanding your reactions or deep hurt).
Anyways, I have already been blown away by the accuracy of this therapist. Her accurate and black and white education is right on. You can heal from any person who has hurt you in your life and who has held such sway. Jesus can pull out the scissors and permanently cut the tie. A big part of this is not blaming yourself for the other's sin, not blaming yourself for the others actions, not blaming yourself and speaking- if you were just better they wouldn't have done this evil, wicked thing, etc. These are all lies. Their evil was free-will chosen and they carried out their emotional sabotage by choice, wanting to drag you or your family down.We are called to righteousness and meekness like our Lord; never emotionally deceiving people or wanting to cause division; only to pursue restoration and healing.
I think of Joseph in the Old Testament and how he forgave his brothers. One thing comes to mind. He forgave, probably a long time before they arrived. However, he never chased his brothers down. Any reconciliation was a work of the Holy Spirit. God brought his brothers back to him. He didn't chase them and wish they would change. When the right timing was set, he trusted the Lord in a reconciling path.
Not every person who has hurt you will be brought back to you from Christ like this.
Also, this book is great because in letting go of past harm, you can also make sure you are repentant yourself of any wrongdoing towards others and you can move on to helping yourself and others, while not acknowledging the perpetrator. If you have experienced any abuse in your life, you are a survivor not a victim. And you never have to keep that tie any longer with the one who hurt you. Jesus frees captives. Forgiveness is a letting go of debt; it is not a reconciliation with an untrustworthy, wicked, or sinful abuser who has not repented in their own walk- you ever included in their life again or not.
Glad to share. This book has gotten great reviews. And remember, we always walk in forgiveness and love, but we don't throw our pearls to pigs as Jesus would say. Lest they destroy and trample them.However, lets love our enemies, be meek, gentle, and kind always like our Lord. Lets let no sin reign. No sin should ever entangle us. We are trusted with a high calling.
Briana
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